Tips for Self-Nurturing
Tried and true ways to put yourself first.
Putting yourself first is an acquired skill. Dr. Ann Webster, Scientist and a Clinical Corporate Trainer at the Mind/Body Medical Institute, Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Centre, and an Instructor in Medicine at Harvard Medical School, recommends practising the art of self-nurture. She offers these 50 suggestions:
- Learn to say no. Saying 'no' is really saying 'yes' to yourself.
- Treat yourself to new and good things (a walk, a chocolate bar, or call an old friend).
- Stop trying to fix and micromanage others.
- Leave work early.
- Wear comfortable clothing and shoes.
- "Hire" help - e.g. a bookkeeper.
- Cancel out sometimes to catch a breath.
- Give yourself praise or positive strokes.
- Regress - eat with your hands, blow bubbles.
- Develop a wide variety of resources for gratification in life - family, friends, travel.
- Don't be afraid to ask questions and ask for help.
- Join a book club, an amateur sports team, whatever.
- Turn off your computer, cell phone, TV, alarm clock, beeper.
- Have a day of dedicated silence - no communicating for 24 hours.
- Allow 15 minutes of extra time to get to appointments so you can show up with grace and dignity.
- Avoid drinking coffee all day.
- Don't watch the 11 p.m. news.
- Practise being patient. Create patience practice periods, such as while waiting in line, rather than being agitated.
- Keep a journal, which is a great therapy tool
- Don't try to be perfect.
- Resist the urge to judge and criticize because we do not all see or do things in same way.
- Take a risk. Not taking risks is the biggest risk of all. We are so lucky in this generation where it is easy to change careers.
- Create your absolute "yes" list - be clear about your priorities and get on the path.
- Avoid "stress carriers" - they dump on you.
- Avoid "negaholics".
- Try to find humour in bad situations.
- When stressed out, ask yourself if this will really make a difference in a week.
- Nurture your soul - create a sacred space.
||Putting yourself first is an acquired skill.